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LOSS OF IDENTITY

 After years of defining yourself through your roles—whether as a devoted wife, a supportive partner in your spouse’s successful business, or a caregiver for your family—you may now find yourself feeling lost and uncertain about who you are. With those roles behind you, it’s natural to struggle to identify your own passions, goals, and sense of purpose.

LACK OF SELF WORTH  

Years of prioritizing others’ needs over your own have eroded your self-esteem. You feel unworthy of happiness, unsure of your value outside of your former roles, and skeptical of your ability to rebuild your life. This lack of self-worth often leads to unhealthy coping mechanisms, like excessive drinking or seeking validation in the wrong places.

EMOTIONAL ISOLATION

You feel intensely alone, even in the presence of friends or family. The divorce has left you disconnected from your former life, and you find it difficult to open up or seek support, fearing judgment or pity. This loneliness can be compounded by your children growing up and moving on, leaving you with an empty nest.

UNCERTAINTY ABOUT THE FUTURE

The future feels like a blank slate, which is both daunting and terrifying. You're unsure of what you want, how to achieve it, or even where to start. This uncertainty causes anxiety and a sense of paralysis, making it difficult for you to take the first steps toward change. 

FINANCIAL ANXIETY

Despite having financial security from the divorce settlement, you remain anxious about money. You worry about whether the settlement will last, how to manage finances independently, and whether you can maintain your lifestyle. This financial anxiety is rooted in a lack of confidence in your own ability to manage and grow your resources.

FEAR OF FAILURE

You're terrified of failing again—whether it’s in rebuilding your life, pursuing new goals, or even in trying to figure out what you want. This fear keeps you stuck, avoiding risks and opportunities that could lead to growth and fulfillment.

UNHEALTHY COPING MECHANISMS

In an attempt to numb the pain, you may have turned to alcohol, impulsive decisions, casual sex or other unhealthy habits. These coping mechanisms provide temporary relief but ultimately deepen your feelings of shame, guilt, and failure.

FEAR OF BEING ALONE FOREVER

Deep down, you fear that you will be alone for the rest of your life. The idea of starting over, especially in relationships, feels overwhelming and nearly impossible.  You worry that you're too old, too set in your ways, or simply not worthy of finding love and companionship again.

OVERWHELM AND CONFUSION

With so many potential paths and options, you feel overwhelmed by the choices in front of you.  You don’t know where to begin or which direction to take, leading to a sense of confusion and inaction. 

DISCONNECTION WITH JOY

The activities that once brought you joy now feel empty or meaningless.  You struggle to find purpose in your day-to-day life and feel like you're merely going through the motions. This disconnect from joy and purpose leaves you feeling unfulfilled and dissatisfied.